Trying to build a family can feel like you’ve been dropped into a maze with no map and no exit in sight. When you’re going through fertility treatments, waiting for adoption approvals, or coordinating with a surrogate, the emotional weight can feel unbearable — especially when you feel like you’re doing it all alone.
And yet, that’s exactly how so many people describe their experience: isolating, confusing, and quietly painful.
While friends share their baby shower invites and daycare updates, you may be stuck in cycles of lab work, negative test results, or phone calls with agencies. It’s no wonder that people on family-building journeys often feel like they’re living in a different world from everyone around them.
But here’s the truth we want you to hold onto:
You are not alone — and you don’t have to do this alone.
🤝 Why Community Support Is Vital
Community is more than a “nice to have” when you’re navigating the ups and downs of IVF, adoption, or surrogacy, it’s essential to your emotional well-being. Here’s why:
1. It Validates Your Experience
When you connect with people who truly understand what you’re going through, it affirms that your emotions are valid. You’re not overreacting. You’re not “too sensitive.”
You’re going through something real, and your pain deserves acknowledgment.
So many fertility warriors hear unhelpful comments like:
- “At least you know you can get pregnant.”
- “Just relax and it’ll happen.”
- “You can always adopt.”
These phrases may come from good intentions, but they often invalidate real pain. In a supportive community, you’re met with empathy; not solutions.
2. It Shares Wisdom You Won’t Find in a Clinic
There’s something powerful about learning from someone who’s walked the same road. While doctors and professionals are essential to your medical care, lived experience offers something they can’t:
- Tips for getting through a two-week wait
- Ideas for making injections feel less overwhelming
- Advice on what to pack for transfer day
- Support for managing relationship tension during treatment
When you connect with others, you open yourself up to collective knowledge that can help you move forward with more confidence and less fear.
3. It Gives You Hope
Fertility journeys are often marked by uncertainty and sometimes, grief. But seeing someone who’s been where you are and has made it to the other side can reignite your hope.
Hope doesn’t always come in big, Instagram-worthy announcements. Sometimes it looks like:
- A DM from someone who says, “Me too.”
- A support group meeting where you don’t have to explain your pain.
- Watching a fellow warrior find peace, even after a setback.
Hope lives in community, especially in moments when you feel like giving up.
4. It Reduces Shame
Shame thrives in silence. The less we talk about something, the more alone we feel. Community allows us to speak the truth about our pain, our frustration, our fears — and to do so without judgment.
When someone says, “I felt that too,” the shame begins to fall away.
When someone says, “You’re not broken,” healing begins.
“Healing happens in community. Even one person who gets it can change everything.”
🌱 Ways to Find (and Build) Your Support System
Every person’s comfort level is different, so finding your right-fit community may take time and that’s okay. Here are some gentle starting points:
🧡 1. Join a Support Group
Faith and Blessings Foundation is launching virtual support groups soon, designed for individuals and couples at every stage of the family-building process. These safe, inclusive spaces will provide:
- Peer encouragement
- Resources for emotional care
- Optional guest sessions with mental health experts and fertility coaches
Stay tuned to our website for dates and sign-up info by subscribing to our newsletter.
🧡 2. Attend Stride for Strength: PCOS Awareness 5k (Virtually!)
Our annual 5K is now 100% virtual — which means you can participate from anywhere, at your own pace, throughout the month of September 2025.
This isn’t just a race. It’s a chance to walk or run in honor of your story, or for someone you love. And it’s an amazing opportunity to feel connected to a larger community of people who get it.
🎟️ Register here by September 30!
🧡 3. Talk to a Fertility-Specialized Therapist
Having a space to process grief, anxiety, and trauma with a professional who understands the emotional complexity of fertility work can be life-changing. Ask your clinic or a local mental health center for recommendations.
You don’t have to wait until you’re overwhelmed, therapy can be a powerful tool throughout your entire journey.
🧡 4. Follow Inclusive Family-Building Spaces on Social Media
Instagram and TikTok can be tricky spaces; some content may be triggering, but many accounts offer validation and educational tools. Follow advocates who speak openly about IVF, loss, surrogacy, and adoption from a place of truth and hope.
Some hashtags to explore:
#IVFSupport #FertilityWarrior #AdoptionJourney #SurrogacySupport #FaithAndBlessingsFoundation
🧡 5. Reach Out to Us Directly
Not sure where to begin? Let us help. Whether you’re looking for emotional guidance, a support group referral, or someone to talk to, we’re just a call or email away.
📞 (803) 521-9677
📧 info@faithandblessings.org
🌐 www.faithandblessings.org
💬 Final Thought: You Weren’t Meant to Carry This Alone
It’s easy to believe that you have to be strong and silent to survive fertility challenges. But the truth is, real strength often begins when we allow ourselves to be seen. Supported. Heard.
Finding community may not remove the hard parts of the journey — but it can soften the edges. It can remind you that you’re part of something bigger. And that no matter how dark or uncertain it feels right now, you are never walking alone.
So here’s your permission slip:
Reach out. Let someone in. Build your village. You deserve it.